Pumpkinzuzu- I agree and have told him this, iv told him from the start that porn sites and dating sites to me is equal to cheating, but thats just my view.

To everyone else- He has started a 3 day a week course which is great but his casual work wasnt allowing him to study so he chose to resign.
In the past he has suffered very badly with depression and so his not great at talking (its actually like pulling nails) and to hear what is happening with his feelings. I just spoke to him on the phone as his at school and his agreed to get councilling and sort his stuff out. I dont believe in fighting and it takes alot to get my back up. Im going to get him to go to a mens group run in our local area and might find out about him doing a sport or perhaps for us to do it together.
I just cant imagin him actually physically going out cheating on me but as i said this is the same thing
Thanks very much for all your advice ladies. Im going to have a chat to him this arvo and see what is going to happen. I told him its me or the dating websites (actually the internet all together) and he chose me and said he would prove his not going to go on them. He is still looking for a job which he can doing whilst not at school