I agree. It makes no difference whether you have kids first or not. You can still do everything you wanted to, maybe not straight away but it is certainly doable. We have our whole lives ahead of us. I don't mind being a young mum, i love it! I know what i want to do in life and i'm going to do it and no one is going to stop me. I want to become a photographer and one day have my own business taking photos of weddings, babies, families etc. I didn't get to do year 12, so I will enter uni as a mature aged student. I want to travel a bit and will do so with DP and DD when she's a bit older. But until then i'm just going to enjoy life as a mum. I couldn't ask for anything more!