No not being silly at all. I would probably write a short note to your brother and girlfriend and say how pleased you are for them but because of all the above you are struggling a bit but hope to be able to see them soon....but you know them and know if this approach will work. I wouldn't make anyone guilt you into going to see bubs when you aren't ready.

We were told IVF would be easy for us....but it still took a year for us to get a sticky bubs and in that time nearly everyone I knew had babies.....its hard when I was going through another loss to be happy for someone else....All the appointments, bt, injections, scans....they all are a reminder that things arent easy...There are plenty of us that understand what you are going through but I dont think anyone who hasnt gone through it will ever really understand even if they want to....

Hugs, I hope you can talk to someone who is supportive of you and helps you through a really difficult time.