I wanted to send you big hugs Rollercoaster. I have only had friends announce their pregnancy since ttc but dread the fact that very soon at least one or two of mine or Dh siblings will announce they are Pg (with their second). I don't wish them the trouble I am having I am just envious and scared of my reaction. Take your time. With a friend I sent a gift and card whig brought some extra time. I think with family there will be higher expectation I go straight away and I think when this happens I will make it a short visit, cry before hand and cry after. It hurts and there is just no denying. It doesn't make you selfish, it makes you totally normal. Big hugs sweet.