you aren't silly. it took us 3 yrs for DS and you know what, when we went back for number two, it was first transfer and bam! it worked like that! so you just never know lovely.

one thing we did, which was great, is we never told anyone we were doing IVF. it stopped all pressure and questions. when asked when we were planning on starting ivf, we would just say we were still saving for it and will do it "later next year maybe''.

hope you get your sticky bubs soon love. big big big hugs.

oh, and i agree with pp, a little note or something to let them know, it's not them, it's not the baby, it's that you have been through such a rough time and are struggling. And just one thing, you might find that holding this little bub such a joy. it will be hard, but if your bro and sil are understanding that it will be hard, it might actually be good for you iykwim. I hope your bro understands and lets you be ready when you are ready! oxox