Thankyou Yael oooh I agree: not telling anyone about your pregnancy/due date etc sounds wonderful.... the more I think about it the more it appeals to me... think of all the QUESTIONS that would be avoided! And I just like the idea of living a more private life. I also have had a preference not to buy gifts for a baby until it is born... I've just done that intuitively as it just didn't feel right. I would however buy a gift for the mum if there was a baby shower or other event where gifts were being given.