but please remember it has to be good for both you, your partner and children. Just because there is a biblical law or some custom of unknown origin that was appropriate in the past, that you should do it as well. Basically, do what makes you happy, there is no one right way to do something.
I feel that maybe IRF could have said this a little more gently so I see where the mods are coming from. But he/she is only new to BB so I'll forgive

Regarding doing what makes us happy... hmmm... I personally don't feel that observing traditions of faith is about personal happiness. It would make me happy to be able to sleep and potter around the house in my jammies instead of going to church some Sundays LOL so with regards to happiness I would rather follow a different definition (eg what God says will make me ultimately happy) than what makes me happy on any given Sunday.

Yael, I always enjoy reading your posts, thankyou