Its really hard hun... While I am only TTC, I absolutely loathe the idea of ex-wife participating in my life in any way, and she seems to be the same about DSD in parenting skills and interest. Fortunately she just remarried and he seems to be lovely and caring about DSD so things have improved.

I think partly you have hormones raging which makes this much tougher to handle, and at the same time, its very reasonable to want her far far away from birthing experience. Its so important not to pick at DSS or at least explain some irrationality in behaviour is beyond your control sometimes.

I don't have a resolution for you, but I completely understand your state of mind. HTH hun.