Sammie

I am sure you will ahndle this well as you sound like you have dealt with the situation well already. Does your DH have his mum or dad who could collect DSS when you are late in labour so that he can see new baby without her being there??

Also with you feeling picky towards DSS now, I think that the reality is you have now become a mother, as soon as you concieve your baby you start to feel protective of them etc, so you are just now seeing what the future could possibly hold with that women in your childs life, I am sure you don't mean to do this you probably at the moment just relating him to her and that is why you are being the way you are.

At the end of the day she has nothing to do with YOUR child/ren and you just need to stick to your guns to ensure she dosen't, I know you love your DSS BUT you also need to protect your child.

Hard situation I also have a DSS (10) and his mother is also not someone I would like my kids around so I just DO NOT allow it to happen. I know this will be hard for a while but I am sure it will all work out.

Good Luck

Julie