Sorry Kitty I got nothing more for you....Im just trying to give something back to what yourve asked.
Yourve gotta be willing to help yourself and take onboard that yep...**** has hit the fan and now how am I going to fix it if I think it needs fixing. Stop looking for excuses, yourve asked for a bit of guidance and all we can do is try and give you what you asked for

Doesnt matter if DH is doing things differently..makes no difference..your kids will know the rules you have if you are consistant yourself.

What do I know I must just be a hard arses ***** of a mother