OMG I would be so angry about that, for goodness sake isnt it YOUR choice as to how many children you have, geeze if you wanted 10 its not for anyone else to say anything about,
an opinion is one thing but being rude is another, I think I would just delete her if she does anything like that again she is not worth it seriously
Congrats. on your pg, I know what it's like to have a surprise bub, the idea can take a bit of getting used to especially when your feeling blah. I hope that are able to find some enjoyment soon. As for your "friend" don't let her crass talk debase you or the intamite act that created your precious little one.
Best wishes for the rest of your pg.
aaawww Tanya, I think your bloody great and to hell with what anybody says. Some people should just learn to shut the F up if they haven't anything nice to say. xx
That honestly is beyond rude some ppl should be more sensitive and keep nasty thoughts to them selves this year me and hubbie will also be TTC 5. that was such a rude thing to say!!!!!!! Big hugs!!!!
Your anger is perfectly justified, Tanya. I hope you don't stay too upset about it for long - it is plain obvious that she's "not very classy" as you so delicately put it. My word, that is absolutely appalling.
You're a much classier woman than she is, Tan. Just ignore her and make sure your next update is "We've done so well with the 4 we have, we've decided to bestow the gift of number 5 on the world!"
I am angry and venting.. Sorry.. BUT I am so sick of people carrying on about children as if they are the worst thing.. I JUST LOST TWINS.. I would love to have my babies here.. and when I was pg with twins I heard "Oh no.. is it in the family?" and when I said we had twins in the family she said "Oh so you were doomed" DOOMED!! WTF, BLESSED more like it.. I felt lucky to have 2 bubs when some women have none.. Now I am 1 of the women who have none.. So to all those b****s who don't want kids.. give yours to me!!!! My best friend was 1 of 6 live babies (mum had 12 pregnancies) and when My best friend used to come and tell us "Mum is having another baby" she reckons I was the only one who would get excited.. Her mum used to get comments like "Don't you have a TV" etc etc... Anyway I think anyone who has a live baby is lucky.. the more they have the luckier they are..xx
Hi girls - I know exactly the sort of comments you get when you have a large family - I think number 5 is the number that tips that balance. When I have miscarried I have had family congratulate me. There are some days when I am feeling drained that to go out with my kids and recieve another negative comment would send me over the edge almost. Nobdy likes to be a freak and I do feel like a freak show when I am out with my amazing, wonderful children and it sucks!!! I love my kids and lovebeing a mum to all 7 of them but I am not supermum and I do have feelings and it does hurt. Even when I am in a new group of people it is like I am pre judged to have it all together and that I think I am better than anyone and no-one will make a move to befriend me, but again I am still a person like everybody else who needs a friend or a smile. I am not perfect and struggle like any other mum whether they have 2 or 10 kids. It is funny though when I do get into a group every women there wants to justify themselves to me why they only have 1,2,3,4,...children! I don't care it is their life and mine is mine so please give us large families a break.
I totaly agree with the last two comments. People can be soooooooooooo rude and alot of people don't think before they say something. When I go out with my 5 children and the last two where twins I get you poor thing how do you cope. It's quite easy thank you.
Hugs to you hun, we have only had one comment so far which was just the other day, Mark was saying he has his 5th child on the way, Mark was then asked when is he getting the snip!!!!!!!!
We`re getting some strange looks when we`re out and about, I can feel people`s eyes drilling into me at times. I feel like saying they aren`t all mine but why should I have to explain myself.
Congratulations Tanya on this wonderful news!!!
How wonderful to be able to have 5 babies, I would kill for a 4th but age and finances have put a stop to that so I am very jealous of you.
I think this "person" on FB should be deleted immediately and you should take one of the great suggestions about what to post on your status LOL
it never ceases to amaze me how we as human beings can be so thoughtless at times - from the minute we get engaged - "so whens the big day" to the moment after your married "so will we being hearing the pitter patter of little feet any time soon?"... and then there's the "so you two gonna have kids?" if there is a delay in spitting a child out as per everyone's assumption that its what your supposed to do - moving onto the moment you have delivered your first born "so are you having any more?"... and if you happened to be "lucky" enough to have a boy and a girl "the pigeon pair" you apparently don't need to have anymore.... which moves onto the comments about "wow - your pregnant AGAIN???!!!"
Tanya - I can completely understand you feeling hurt - its just rude - especially in such a public arena such as facebook.
And congratulations are in order!! (Thanks MrsMac!)
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You're a much classier woman than she is, Tan. Just ignore her and make sure your next update is "We've done so well with the 4 we have, we've decided to bestow the gift of number 5 on the world!"
for you.
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