Hi candi,

My DD #1, was 2 yrs old when I met & started seeing my now DH, she never asked about her Dad as he was never around (leaving when I was preg) & pretty much pretending we didnt exist. Made it much easier as I was in OZ & he was in Bali. But I travelled back & fourthg & then met now DH, his name is Dede & Maddy called him Daddy the first day they met & really took to himimmediately... It wasnt til he came to Oz for a 3 month holiday & stayed with us that she started being nasty & rude to him... I explained that it hurt his feelings & made him sad & if it made him sad that in turn made Mummy sad, because Mummy loved him & wanted him to be happy too. I also explained that Mummy still loved maddison just the same, beacuse we can all grow more love not share our love, just grow more... She seemed to understand & from that day on she started telling everyone she loved her Daddy, she beacme really jealous if anyone eals sat near him on the couch & would squeeze her way in...
I was working & so he took her to kinder & they'd go for nike rides etc & so they have a very strong & close bond. I never asked her or questioned her about calling him Dad it's just always been the way she refers to him. She knows & has photo's of her bio Dad, but I explained from day 1 that situation & she is happy to have Dh in her life, we have just had a baby girl together & Maddison adores her, she still does special things with DH & we have made sure certain things they will still do together so she doesnt get upset, pushed aside or jealous!
As long as you can balance it all out & she knows she is still loved & important then she will cope fine....
Best of luck...