Hi to all who regularly post to this forum.

From the end of November, unless he decides to arrive early, I guess I become part of a "blended family". As it gets closer and closer, my anxiety levels have been increasing dramatically. I have two children, 10 and 8 from a previous relationship, and my DH has had no kids. He has been in my children's lives for the past 3 years, and prior to being with me had little to no experience with children. the past 3 years needless to say have been challenging to say the least, as both my kids and DH learn to accomodate each other.

As if that isn't challenging enough, lets up the ante and fall pregnant and add another child into the mix...

I feel so pulled in so many directions. There is a very clear distinction with DH that DD and DS are MY children, not his, and the one on the way is his. All I want is us to be a family, without borders of who belongs to who. Its stresses me out so much the division that is so apparent. And if it is so apparent now, I feel like it is only going to get worse once the baby arrives.

Has anyone else experienced this with their "blended family"? Any and all advice would be greatly appreciated. I'm at my wits end, and would like to run away and hide.