Great idea Belle, I hadn't even thought about that. But unfortunately I think BIL's wife (SIL no 2), would say no as she would feel that the "attention" had been taken away from her DD. If worse comes to worse I could suggest that tho.

FF, Sunday 18th is out due to the other christening so I will definitely need to confirm with other friend about when she has her friends birthday.

The bugger about all of this is that the 2 friend's whose children's birthdays are so close are basically our closest friends so we have to attend their children's celebrations. Up until 3 years ago we thought how unusual for our DD to have her birthday so close to xmas and were able to get around it, we certainly won't be able to in future years now!!!!