Firstly I'm going to say that you are so luck you have a nice MIL, mine was/is SO CRAZY (to the point that my Hubby doesn't even talk to her anymore!!)
Anyways....
I think you should definitely confront her. These little things that are bothering you really are unnecessary and a waste of your energy and as you say she probably doesn't even know that you are sensitive about it so I'd just sit down over a cuppa (or send an email - depends how comfortable you are with confrontation) and just say what's on your mind, without attacking. From what you said in here it looks like you are really level headed about it anyway!
The most important issue to me is the one where she is telling YOU how to take care of your babies. That is a big no no!!! If you let down your guard on that one it can be dangerous! I would definitely say straight out that HEY we all parent differently and the way I prefer to raise my children is different to you as it is different to x bla bla and just ask that she respect it as you are happy just the way you are doing things, but you are happy her way worked for her. regarding the Mum calling issue - say just what you said here! That you aren't comfortable as it's not her just the way you feel - even with your own Mum so don't take offense it's just the way I am. Hope I have it all covered? Just remember you're a Mum too and it's up to you to stand up for yourself, your family and the way YOU do things. Take charge m'lady and good luck! She'll understand, it was her turn once and know it's yours
Let us know how you go! Hope I helped in some way!
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