I would stop now.

For the emails just say to her that the chain letters really clog up your inbox and have actually let a whole heap of spam in. I'd also say to her that if she continues you're going to have to change your email address as SOME of the spam mail contains hacking viruses and is able to access your other friends emails. OK so its a load of B.S but desperate times call for desperate measures. Just be prepared to change your email and not give it to her though.

RE the baby caring, lactating thing. Sadly you will get parenting advice no matter whether you want it or not. I would probably mention that things have changed a lot over the years and there is an awful lot of new parenting techniques that you think you'd like to consider "but thank you very much for your suggestions" .... if that doesn't stop her you might need to just nod and do your own thing anyway and let the comments slip. SOmetimes its not worth the battle when it comes to people who "know better" .... Just don't allow yourself to be bullied or allow her to take over. It may mean a sharp hard word to her but you're about to become a mother and you need to learn to hell with other peoples feelings if it intrudes too much on how you choose to raise your family.

The Mum think is a funny one too. I think you need to just be honest with her and tell her you are not comfortable with calling her "mum" as you already have a mother and you don't even refer to her as mum so you feel odd about it. Simple. Again if she persists just ignore her comments and continue calling her whatever it is you call her.


BEst of luck hun, I think you are about to enter a HUGE growing/learning curve. Aside from becoming a mother you are going to have to learn tack and subtly when dealing with things you are not comfortable with. If other people get hurt in the process always try to make clear that its not your intention but you do deserve a little more respect and need to learn things on your own accord. Be sure to throw in the old "but if I need your help I will be sure to ask for it" line as it may save their ego.

HTH Nae x x