Thanks ladies, I just wanted to see what other peoples thoughts were and stuff.

I did set up a separate email for her only but somehow she got my real one off someone else and the spam filter doesn't always pick everything up. I might try explaining to her that that email is only for professional stuff and see how that goes.

I'm used to unwanted baby/parenting advice but she is really forceful about it. She's a doormat about almost everything else except this. I'm lucky that we live so far away in a way because I know she wont be interfering long term, but we have completely opposite ideas of everything and I don't want to appear ungrateful after she flies all the way up here to help us out. I've already snapped at her for continuously asking me for belly photos, but I don't want to bite the hand so to speak.

Boobaloo - Yeah I come from a long line of biological failures lol It could even go further back but we don't have records from that time, we've only got them from when the first lot of that side of the family came to Australia in the 1880's. Wherever it comes from though its a pretty strong gene because it hasn't been stamped out yet!

She'll be known as Oma since DH's family are Dutch but I dunno, I think it would be weird for me to start calling her that just yet! Once the girls are born though it would be much easier!

Would it be totally spineless of me to get SIL to say something? She's about as subtle as a sledge hammer but she would have no scruples about doing it!