Like Trillian said, they probably would not be allowed in anyway. In times of crisis people like to congregate at places close to the issue. Even if they can't do or see anything they still like to be there. I don't know what I would like but I know at times when a family member has been in hospital I have wanted to go there and even if I only got 2 minutes to show my love then that was enough for me.
A friend of mine went into hospital in labour at 22 weeks, she specifically asked for a couple of girlfriends in addition to her husband to be with her. The hospital managed to delay her labour for a few weeks, and in that time she was very grateful for any visitors, as she couldn't do anything at all. Once bub was born it was pretty much immediate family though. I think it's a pretty personal thing, it's more than just the labour, there's the whole emotional side to having such a premature bub. I know where you're coming from though, I don't think I'd want a heap of people around.
I don't think so. I know I'd want DH there, but I don't think anyone in my family would come running in while I was birthing unless I asked for them. But after I'd given birth, I think I'd want family to come. I would feel horrible if something was to go wrong and nobody had met our baby. I don't know how I'd feel with people beyond that, guess I'd just take it how it came at the time.
I think I'd want my DH and my mum. I wouldn't want heaps of other people around, but I would be ok with a support person for DH as well. Of course completely hypothetical and I too hope your colleague's family is ok
Not exactly the same situation, but when my dd1 was born she needed surgery at 48hrs old. We were told it probably wouldn't save her do get everyone we wanted to say goodbye to the nicu, DH and I were already there, and my mum was the only one who could make it in time before they took her to theatre.....my mum,dad and sister and mil all wanted to come and wait for her to come out, but I was waaaay too overwhelmed and emotional, I only wanted DH. They were good about it and waited til she was out of recovery and back to nicu, by then it was 9pm, so they came up first thing the next morning as she was relatively stable.
I guess everyone reacts differently, and you don't know how you will until in that situation. I thoyght I'd want everyone around me, but emotionally I just couldnt handle other people being upset as it took all my energy to keep myself together
We had my parents and MIL present when DD was born. We knew she was very sick and would be transfered to RCH immediately.
I enjoyed having support from my parents, as I'm sure DH liked his mother being there (FIL came the following day). But, we had multiple people coming every day for 2 weeks.
I didn't like it at all. I wasn't up to seeing people and they wanted to see DD. So, therefore, I had to leave DD.
A baby born at 25w is a different story. I would say no. I just want to spend as much time with my little one as possible, just in case the worst happens.
DS was four weeks early and was in the SCN for a few days. I resented visitors as they took me away from him. I also got a bit angry when MIL visited and got upset, I had enough to worry about without trying to comfort our visitors. When we announced his birth via SMS to the masses we specifically said no visitors until after midday on a certain day to give him and us some time. Some people still came prior and a heap of DHs relo's turned up at 12pm on the dot of the day we said it was ok after midday. It was a bit OTT.
I have always asked new parents when they would like us to visit - and always told them if something changes to let me know as I will take no offence if its not a good time or day. Its just about respect rather than putting your own need to see the new baby first.
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