BW, sometimes just getting the emotions down on paper is the best thing to do. I too found them witty especially the later ones and can certainly relate to the pharmacy on top of the fridge. But I think with family there is a lot more feelings involved the girls here understand because so many are going through the same/similar problems/feelings and as you say yourself no-one in the family has experienced anything like this themselves. I think they don't know how to handle it and find it confronting, then do what they think is best. I think they will be very hurt, because they just won't/can't understand, but at the same time they can't continue to hurt you. It is a hard one, but you are a very smart thoughtful cookie and I don't think you will just throw it out there. I wish you the best of luck at this tough time of year. Don't get me wrong, I am not sticking up for them(family and friends), I am trying to think of the repercussions and I am sure there would be lots whatever you decide.