I think you are spot on, Sushee. This is the core of the issue. I think many families have a lot of problems with accepting us as we are. They (meaning parents, mostly) often cannot let go of controlling us as we grew into adults and they wanted us to turn out a particular way, made assumptions about what would happen in our lives. And as we pursue the AC path, we are changed forever, hence parents lose even more control and find it even more difficult to accept who we are. Everyone is always fighting for control in some manner. Control = comfort. And comfort is what families want. Comfort that their children are ok and are the people they "brought them up" to be. AC is not comfortable. We often are not ok. It makes families uncomfortable, and without realising they try to hang on to that comfort for all their dear life and it results in the needs of their children going through AC being neglected and/or ignored, intentionally or not. This is my thoughts based on my own family. Trying to be clinical about it, but it's family, so it's emotional.