The best way to cope with other people's pregnancies/babies?

[Moonflower]

Hi Possums. I tried to post on your blog this morning but couldn't.

I wanted to let you know that you're not on your Pat Malone and that I'm thinking of and praying for you.

I currently am avoiding my family as there are two babies as well as numerous nieces and nephews that I love to bits but I just can't be near. Also can't be around my siblings / sisters in law as all they talk about is pregnancies and children. Plus am now avoiding a friend as she has just announced her pregnancy.

I am about to embark on seeing a counsellor in order to figure out how to deal with my depression and anger. Meanwhile, what do you believe the best course of action is for you? As one of the other ladies said, your friends will, in all likelihood, support you and understand your absence for the time being. I've only told 4 people what I'm going through now (ivf). I told them that if I looked down or didn't turn up to an event to please not question me, maybe just give me a hug. So far, it's worked great. DH wants to go to his sister's party tonight and I'm not going. That's how it is for me.



Cheers
Moonflower

[Possums]

Thanks also Rach and Moonflower...I think perhaps I need to have a chat with these friends about how I am feeling, or perhaps put my feelings into an email to them...at the moment, I think they honestly don't realise how hard I am finding it. Perhaps a bit focussed on their own stuff, and I also haven't really expressed directly how I feel and that I need to step back. Maybe they will realise the reason I am not at some events and see through my excuses...maybe not though, unless I do make it clear. That might make it easier for me and easier for them to understand too.