So far I have stayed out of this discussion because I was not really sure of my opinion on the original question.

However, Jellybean, your statement:

we would undergo extensive mutual detoxing and Naturopathic pre-conceptual care, and if after that we could still not fall pregnant naturally, we would be turning to adoption before IVF.
has left me absolutely breathless with its insensitivity and naivity.

How I would dearly love to have the option a) to make the choice to have a child with my husband's genes and/or b) to adopt a child with my husband.

Please tell me how detoxing and natropathic care would have made my husband produce sperm? Believe me, we had one natropath guarantee just that - we gave her 6 months, and she could not do as she had promised. This was when we were clutching at straws for anything to work.

I could never see myself being one of those people who are willing to sell their cars, houses, and their sanity in order to conceive a child through IVF,
Please tell me how a man finding out he can never be a father biologically, and his wife, can hold on to all aspects of their sanity? Needless to say, when you are told that you will NEVER be able to produce a child biologically it does things to your mental health - we were lucky to survive the bouts of anxiety and depression and come out the other side with a marriage and the intention to have a child.

And of course, because of these diagnoses, we will never be able to adopt.

So we are putting all our time, money and energy into having a child via IVF.

And my answer to the original question - no I am not insulted, just amazed that people would put themselves through the pain and heartache that we have, in order to have twins.