i'm really hoping by the outpouring in this thread since this post that even ONE person learns that comments like this are amongst the most insensitive an infertile person can hear. it's almost as bad as "just relax" or "go on holiday, stop thinking about it" - they are comments that cut to the core, and do nothing but show that there are far too many people that think this journey is easy.
FWIW, i'm pretty sure it's clear now how much adoption ISN'T an option if it "gets too tough". it's a case of one or the other, and they're both equally emotionally trying for those going through the process. if you really think ivf or adoption are easy, go and do some reading about what an ivf cycle entails, or find your local states adoption application process. look at the times, the expense, and the wishy washy maybe outcomes - and then tell me that either is the easy way out.
i'm sure there is not a single person who's posted here of their IVF journey that would CHOOSE to go through it over natural conception. hell, even those in same sex couples or single women take the lesser option (IUI) with minimal invasive procedures. it's devastating in the first place telling you that you have minimal to no chance of natural conception, and every step of the way feeling like you're fighting a losing battle.
i would love to be one of those individuals that doesn't understand IVF - on this one ignorance truly would be bliss. for those of you for whom this is the case - think a bit before you post. we are REAL people, with REAL feelings, laying our hearts on the line to try to help you understand - don't kick us while we're down
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