Since my original post, I have become more educated about IVF - I was fortunate to conceive naturally, but did have 4 miscarriages and took years to have the children I have, so I do just want to say that everything is relative - someone who has never had a miscarriage can't understand what it is truly like, someone who has children of both genders will never truly understand my longing for a girl, someone who has never gone thru IVF (like me) will never understand the obvious complexities and heartaches, but I do want to say - there are probably alot of us dealing with different types of heartaches in our journeys to have children, do we really have the right to judge anyone's feelings? I know since this topic, I am far more understanding of others pain, it doesn't however diminsh my own personal struggles - just gives me more empathy. I used to cringe when someone would tell me "it was an accident or it wasn't planned", but long ago I realised how can they possibly understand what I went through to have my 3 beautiful angel boys... I pray success for everyone in their stuggles to have a child - what ever option they have to endure or are fortunate enough to be blessed with and am thankful for all the wonderful people in here who have helped open my eyes. I still do not feel insulted, as simply, I do not know what others struggle with, I only know my own...