JB, it's great you would consider adoption. DH and 'I talked about this pre-TTC: he would rather do IVF than adopt because of biology (although was happy to remain childless, but knew that it wasn't an option for me). Thankfully we didn't need either, but the point is that even in the cold, people make different decisions. We may have changed our minds should we not have DS, but who knows? Thankfully, not us.

That doesn't make me a better or worse person than you. Just that our decisions would have been different. Adoption has different requirements to IVF and different perspectives from prospective parents. It has different needs legally and financially. They aren't really comparable TBH because the processes are SO different and require different parts of yourself to be exposed and laid bare at different times and in different orders.

I just want to give huge hugs to the other women who have gone through this decision which I know we would ALL rather have remained hypothetical. You're all heroes and thank you all for sharing your journies with us.