I agree with alot of what Briggsy's girl has said. While its dissapointed you that he has let the secret slip to his mum, he probably felt like he needed to talk to someone about it. Its hard for us females ttc when our bodies are controlling the majority of the process, and we tend to forget about how our partner is feeling about it all. In a way its nice to have someone special like your mum or MIL knowing about it, as then they know the extra special effort you guys have had to go to, to have a child and to provide them with grandbabies. Also I dont know what your MIL is like, but it may be nice for you to have someone else rather than just your DH to talk to about the whole process. I can understand your feelings totally but remember both you & DH need as much support as you can get.
We kept our IVF journey to ourselves for the reasons you mentioned. We watched friends of ours being scrutinised and wanted the journey to be as similar to the natural one as possible. I always said we wouldn't run around saying how many times this week we DTD, so why go in to the details of the IVF?
I would have been furious too. But as they others have said maybe he just needed someone to talk to.
Is it possible that now that she knows you're doing the IVF you could just leave it at that, and not discuss any more details? We didn't tell anyone we were pregnant until at least after we'd seen a heartbeat.
As far as support for you both goes, do you know any friends who are doing IVF? We were lucky enough that close friends of ours were doing it at the same time and also playing their cards close to their chest, but we shared with each other. Would your DH join BB or perhaps another IVF support forum?
I know what you mean about not getting that thrill of the surprise, but you can also choose not to know the gender and when labour starts will also be a surprise too
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