Thanks for your honest answers guys.

I know we have talked about it about 5 years ago and they had been "trying" and nothing was happening, so its not a new thought that they have just accepted it wasn't happening.

I feel sad if I think about letting my friendship go, but I totally get where you are coming from Ellie - thank you for sharing with me.

Like I said, DH thinks she is "sorta" being selfish - but I never said that - so I hope you guys didn't think that I said that? Maybe I need to clarify my position in my opening post more..