Just not sure what to do next...opinions welcome

[NaeNae]

Em,

I have no advice for you hun other than to just do what feels right. As women our decisions can be harder to make around AF time too.
Big monster hugs, I hope your dreams become reality, you have been through so much and deserve a bundle of oy in your arms.

Much love
Nae x

[teme]

Good luck Possum!
Is it really that high risk for someone to have a 2nd ectopic? I was told 20%? Now I am freakinf

[Possums]

thanks ladies

teme- it depends on the state of your remaining tube. Mine is in quite bad shape, with adhesions etc, which means it would be easy for an egg to get stuck in there! It also reduces our chances of falling pregnant in the first place, as apparently my tube is a bit 'clubbed down' at the opening, making it harder for an egg to get into it...and of course, I only have the one. So for me, the decisionto return to IVF is based on both those factors...and I guess is why my Ob referred me to IVF in the first place.
I hope you have success soon.

[Mels77]

hi emma - i hope you're doing ok and i'm always checking up on you. in the end, i was really pleased with the decision to go to ivf (we were an "unexplained" case, so plenty of indecision about whether we should just "keep trying"). i actually didn't find ivf too tough - and quite liked knowing all the milestones and when everything was happening, rather than the unknown of trying naturally each month.
go with your gut instinct - but for me, i don't regret going to ivf nor did i feel we opted for it too early (nearly 2 years).
good luck - always thinking of you.
mel xx

[Possums]

Mel, thanks very much for saying that. I hope all is going well with you

well, I have started on the pill, so officially into another IVF cycle...and I do feel pleased to be doing something more proactive

[buliej]

Possums - I didn't know you had started your next cycle - congratulations. I know it must be exciting and scary at the same time - I have so much hope for you now that you have a diagnosis.

[Possums]

thanks Julie....fingers crossed for us both going forward

[redlady]

I feel for you. It is a hard decision to make and its one that you need to work through with your DH.

Everyone will have different ideas of what to do, but in the end you must do what is right for you.


My DH an I are in a place where we have to make a decision too. We are taking a week to write down pro's and con's on a list. It was something I was taught to do when I was 18yrs old and it has come in handy often.

Maybe you could do a list like this. It helps make things a little clearer.

Hugs to you.
Bye for now
Redlady