LT TTC after Miscarriage or Loss #8

[Sunbeam]

Hi Lovelies,

Saffy- I'm glad you are feeling better with the idea of having an end date for TTC. I did this a while ago, before I got my new donor, and it did give me a sense of control over the whole things that has had so much control over my life for so long. I hope neither of us have to face life without a bub in the end.

Minniemouse - 10dpo is good because if it is positive it will be a great birthday pressie and if it is negative you can just tell yourself it is too early to know . I will be 11dpo on saturday. I know it is early but I am c@%p at waiting! My old housemate and her partner will be testing saturday too.

Crafty - That is so funny you mentioned my sl%$y eggs. I had forgotten about that until just the other day (when I was, quite stupidly, trying to do a positives and negatives list of whether it'd be likely that I'll be UTD!! TWW madness, I'm sure it's a diagnosable disorder by now!) I'm glad you are ready to join the TWW madness group and that DH is doing his part in keeping up with what cd you are up too, what a good boy

AFM - I don't trust any symptoms anymore after too many months feeling UTD and not being. The prog just plays tricks the whole time so there is not any point even guessing. All I can do is hope my sl^%y eggies liked their new friends. Realised today it is over a year now since I last fell pg. Total aside, I LOVE Big Bang Theory it puts a smile on my face every day.

[Loops12]

Hi Lovely Ladies
I nearly missed the new thread - glad I found you guys
Ive been MIA for a few days because I actually have tonsillitis - it has been absolutely horrid, can't even swallow hot or solid foods
So I really dont think I'll be getting a BFP this month! I'm thinking I'm not gunna worry about it too much and wont test until after AF due.

Saff ~ what you said - I can totally get - I read it and thought, yep thats the way I am starting to feel. Which shocks me a little because ever since I was little I always knew I wanted lots of kids but I have two beautiful nieces that I love and adore and another niece or nephew on the way so I think I can be happy with them and just to have a stress free life from TTC would be good, with less financial strain. Obviously I have a few yrs ahead of me so it may be easy for me to say this now but I think its because we've already done so much and stressed so much and I don't think I could take too much more to be honest. In a way when we do stop (whether thats because we get a miracle or not), it will be such a huge weight off our shoulders.

Clairesmuumy ~ any time hon, we are all here to support one another and I wouldnt get by without you either. So pleased you were able to move forward and organise another FS, must be hard living in such a remote area - I think Gippsland is hard enough as always for you!!

GL with the O'ing ladies - hope you all catch the eggies!!

[minniemouse]

7 days in and im already over the 2ww !

[age78]

Hi there,
First time poster & knew as soon as I typed in the words "Long time TTC after miscarriage" & this popped up that it was perfect. My story: Got pregnant first month of trying Dec '09 (so obviously thought we were just amazing & super fertile). Unfortunately ended in an early miscarriage at 6weeks 3days. Had a D&C in Feb '10, started trying again in June '10, & since then nada. Oh, apart from increased weight gain, hormonal ups & downs, strains on our relationship & in the bedroom, etc.
Saw a wonderful FS who booked me in for a Lap, D&C & Dye test early June, so hoping that may do the trick but after so long you kind of give up. She has recommended we try for a couple of months before starting the IVF journey.
Sorry if this is so long but it's so nice to come across other people in the same boat (not that I would wish this on anyone but you get what I mean).
Have worked in child care for many years & just qualified as a Kinder teacher so absolutely adore kids & always planned for a family. Can't quite believe that it's not the easy & natural process it's always made out to be
Thanks for the ramble, & hope to gain some wonderful info & insight from you ladies...

[Saffy]

Hi age78 welcome, hopefully we can be of some help, we've all been through the same. Your story actually nearly made me laugh ( not cos I'm a sadist) but because we were exactly the same- pregnant 1st month of trying and I was so smug- well that was 2 1/2 yrs ago so not so smug now am I!!! Sorry you are having to deal with this, it is so hard and I really hope the lap etc does the trick, sounds like your FS is on the ball anyway.xx

Minnie- oh no you are only halfway there, those bloody twws are a pain, I wouldn't test at 10dpo if I were you, it would unlikely be bfp even if you were utd, so hang out if you can xx

sunbeam- I forgot about your sl*tty eggs too!! Well, lets hope they are living up to their reputation, when is your BT?.I know you are testing Sat, not long now, stay sane if you can xx

loops- oh no, you are havign a run of bad luck, tonsilitis sux, I used to have it a lot when i was young, hope your throat is feeling better soon hun. And thanks for what you said, glad somone understands, even though none of us should have to be thinking like this, its so unfair xx

Crafty- yeah af came today so hopefully those depressing hormones will go away, I often feel better after AF comes, new hope etc. Thanks for your story. And I'm glad DH is on the ball, mine wouldn't have a clue lol

afm- yes well finally woke up with AF, so will ring the nurse and here we go again...

[Clairesmummy]

First of all HUGE to age78, sorry you have to be in here with us though darl, huge hugs to you for your hard journey. My DF and I have been trying now since SEPT. 2008. and so far we are still travelling along. Great to hear you have a good FS though that has been my HUGE battle with our journey finding a good GP, then an OB now I am finally getting to see a FS. next month. Hope your journey goes by quickly for you with a gorgeous little bub to take home very soon darl. All the ladies in here are wonderful and full of great advice as well.

Saffy~ WooHoo for a new cycle darl, praying that this will be the best cycle ever for you darl, baby dust and sticky vibes for you hun.

Loops~ Horrible tonsils I know how you are feeling right now, honey is great for treating tonsilitus soothes them and kills the germs as well, I swear by it. Hope you are feeling better soon darl, hugs to you.

Sunbeam~ I have everything crossed for you praying this is your cycle darl, good luck. Baby dust to u and lots of sticky vibes.

Crafty~ good luck catching that egg darl, we are only 2 days apart in our cycle so here's to our 2WW together let us all bring some great positive vibes to this thread and we all go out with a BFP and take home bub, FX for you.

Minnie~ How you travelling in your 2WW darl, can't wait until you get to test, FX for you...

AFM~ Today is CD13 and OMG I can not believe what is happening to me, I did an OPT this morning and it's nearly POSITIVE at CD13, could this be a REAL cycle for me???? I have lots and lots of EWCM and we started DTD at CD10 and no doubt will again tonight. I just can't believe my cycle is behaving itself all on it's own. WooHoo for me.

[Saffy]

claresmummy- thats great news about the opk- glad you have been getting busy in the bedroom too! (sorry I missed you in my last persies for some reason xx)