Mindhugs - family can be so frustrating! Even if they don't know about the IVF they should still be able to accept that a birthday party in Bali may be too expensive for you!

Saraz - we've told as few people as possible. We ended up telling M/FIL and B/SIL about 6 months in after I got a bit too upset when SIL announced she was pg. None of my family know. Like you I don't want to be constantly updating people. I also don't want sympathy or unhelpful advice!

Aurian - welcome and good luck!

Out of time for more persies but I hope everyone is going well!