Hi everyone,

I can never keep up with where everyone is at by the time I get to writing my reply (after reading all yours).

Anyway on the weekend I met 2 women who had IVF stories to share. One told me her sister in law had 3 cycles of IVF (full stim cycles each time) and the last one ended with a chemical pregnancy. I asked if she had a baby now and was told she is now pursuing the adoption route (not what I wanted to hear). But then the other woman got pregnant on her 1st IVF cycle (her husband had low sperm count so they used ICSI and since she had no medical fertility issues it worked first go). She has a 3 year old daughter now.

I also spoke to a friend of mine who was an egg donor for her cousin. She was 29 when she did it and she told me she was quite shattered when they only got 4 eggs and only one made it to an embryo for transfer (and then it didn't work). She said she had found it very upsetting as she was young and had always assumed she would be very fertile (she hasn't had her own kids yet but her sisters have been very fertile) and only getting so few eggs and embryos after all the injections made her wonder if she will have trouble concieving herself. I told her this atleast made me feel a bit better about my 12 eggs and only ending up with one embryo, and we were able to have a bit of a laugh about it as she often teases me about being old (I'm 4 years older than her) and I tease her about being a baby! LOL I asked about her cousin and she said they tried with another egg donor after that but still had no luck and she thinks they gave up after that. :-(

On a sad and happy note a friend of mine who had been trying to get pregnant naturally for about 6 years before looking into possibly using a sperm donor and finally going the IVF route (ICSI due to her partner's low sperm count) just gave birth. She got pregnant on her first IVF attempt (she only got one embryo from that cycle so this had given me hope when I had ended up with only one embryo). Well her son was born last week - 26 weeks gestation. He will be in hospital for 100 days apparently (if he survives). I hadn't spoken to her last week because of my BFN and just needing to not chat to people who were pregnant and now I feel really bad. It seems like they have been through so much with it being touch and go - he needed insulin & oxygen and at one stage he went down hill and they weren't allowed to touch him at all but now he is a bit better. It seems like he is a real fighter so I'm hoping for my friend that he can survive against the odds. I couldn't imagine going through all of this to try for a baby and then have it born so far prem and just praying so hard it survives. I feel guilty for having been upset about my disappointment with not getting pregnant as what she is going through is so much worse.

I have my appointment with my specialist on Thursday to discuss what my options are if I do decide to try again.

Lori
Started donor search Dec 06, Started donor insemination Jan 09, Started IVF Feb 10 - 1st cycle BFN and no frosties