Goodluck Starbright - it can be so hard - maybe he was trying to be 'encouraging' but is clueless about being sensitive doing it.

The SIL /mother too - they might think you have a problem and want to check how your are. Sometimes people mean well but it makes things worse.
It hurts yes and we are here for you to vent anytime.

Do they actually know how close you are to FET ?

Cross the bridge when you come to it and take each day as it comes the next 2 ww will be very difficult as it is with all the recent events in the picture. Be positive and say a positive mantra .