oh Ladies I sorry to hear a few of you are having a tough time at the moment - I just wanted to encourage you to stick to those that understand the situation and the related emotions...like all your friends in here. People have the best intentions and they just dont realise. My girlfriend fell pregnant within 4 weeks of coming off the pill and she means well when she tells me I will love being a mum and how wonderful it is bla bla bla......she knows how long we've been ttc and about my probs.....I just feel like slapping her sometimes.....she woudn't even know what CM is or BBT.

I'd like to share something with you that I read the other day about how your conscious mind makes up 12% of your brain and your subconscious makes up 88%...this is why some say it makes sense to tell yourself poitive things all the time ('pray') so that your body believes in what you are telling it (I will o, the IUI will take and the sperms will fertilise the ovum).....….one article read 'because trying to conceive can be stressful and highly emotional, if you can at least stop yourself from being self critical then that is one less stress to cope with. Be good to yourself. Nurture yourself, just as you are preparing to nurture another.
And remember the mind is a powerful tool and it can be used to create a positive fertile space within you ...'

Its helped and reminded me to try and stay more positive. Worth a try I guess.