I know I probably come across as too negative sometimes but I personally think there is enough false hope peddled by the whole IVF machine. There is room for optimism and miracles but I think they need to be tempered by some healthy realism. The other just isnt sustainable long term. If, God forbid, you end up doing this long term

People sometimes say to me, I dont know how you do it again and again. I can only cope by being realistic, a tiny bit tough and a bit cynical about things I read on the web on other forums, etc.

Honestly, I would rather know within five minutes of having an embryo transferred whether it has worked or not, than entertain the idea that I might be pregnant for a week and a half or whatever. To me, that's cruel. If it hasnt worked, I want to know, and then move on to plan B, C, D, E or F or whatever the hell I'm up to I just have too little time, and too much invested in this whole caper to daydream about what might be, only to have it pulled from under me.

Am I jaded. Absolutely. Do I wish I was as naive and optimistic as when I started. Absolutely. But I can never go back...