LTTTC Two Week Wait 2012 # 4

[myturn]

There is a reason I do not POAS


chin up Emma - it's not over till AF sings

from what I am aware, people can get BFN on POAS - and still get a +ve BT.... there's still hope lovely... xxx

[Emma09]

Thanks......

[nothing2lose]

I have never known that to actually happen to anyone myturn

i have read it on US forums but i think they are using dodgy tests or are morons It's practically impossible!!!

[nothing2lose]

Emma, look at it this way, as each day goes on you get your hopes up. At least if you have been testing bfn, it is not the same crushing blow all at once iykwim.

[Emma09]

Emma, look at it this way, as each day goes on you get your hopes up. At least if you have been testing bfn, it is not the same crushing blow all at once iykwim.

Thanks

[nothing2lose]

I know it's hard but I promise you nothing is worse than getting that phone call at the end of a 2ww from a nurse who you barely know (if at all) who is just working her way down a list of people to call, telling you that all your hopes and dreams for that cycle are shattered. Especially when you have allowed yourself to get your hopes up.

It's the phone call from hell

[Maruschke]

I know it's hard but I promise you nothing is worse than getting that phone call at the end of a 2ww from a nurse who you barely know (if at all) who is just working her way down a list of people to call, telling you that all your hopes and dreams for that cycle are shattered. Especially when you have allowed yourself to get your hopes up.

It's the phone call from hell

There is not a single thing that can make that event any less traumatic.

[nothing2lose]

Except knowing the answer already

[myturn]

I have never known that to actually happen to anyone myturn

i have read it on US forums but i think they are using dodgy tests or are morons It's practically impossible!!!

Probably true....

As for POAS addiction I will give you one thing.... If AF has not arrived the day of AF - then I may POAS.... Cause I can see your point on the dreaded phone call....

[myturn]

Except I know my nurse quite well - so I don't think it would be quite do bad as the 'unknown nurse' from the city

but BT day has always been crap for me so far. I've known without having to POAS as AF always arrives first.

Im sending lots of super big s to you Emma. It just sucks xxxxxxxxxxxxx

[nothing2lose]

I know I probably come across as too negative sometimes but I personally think there is enough false hope peddled by the whole IVF machine. There is room for optimism and miracles but I think they need to be tempered by some healthy realism. The other just isnt sustainable long term. If, God forbid, you end up doing this long term

People sometimes say to me, I dont know how you do it again and again. I can only cope by being realistic, a tiny bit tough and a bit cynical about things I read on the web on other forums, etc.

Honestly, I would rather know within five minutes of having an embryo transferred whether it has worked or not, than entertain the idea that I might be pregnant for a week and a half or whatever. To me, that's cruel. If it hasnt worked, I want to know, and then move on to plan B, C, D, E or F or whatever the hell I'm up to I just have too little time, and too much invested in this whole caper to daydream about what might be, only to have it pulled from under me.

Am I jaded. Absolutely. Do I wish I was as naive and optimistic as when I started. Absolutely. But I can never go back...

[Emma09]

I wish I had your realism N2L.
It's so easy to get swept up into the emotions.
TBH- the testing makes me feel a bit more prepared.
I read that test by myself every morning, in my own time, which gives me time to process my feelings.
I stay upbeat for my DH- I don't like anyone to see my emotions IRL.

BFN for me this morning.... I'm resigned to the fact that this cycle hasn't worked and am excited to move on to the next one.

[Maruschke]

So sorry Emma. The rollercoaster sucks doesn't it .

[Miss.B]

I'm sorry Emma . It's good that you're excited about your next cycle hun, but it's still disappointing isn't it. Big hugs xxx

[myturn]

Emma

And another one for you n2l I wish you could go back too

Im mostly in denial during the tww. Trying not to get excited and trying not to be too negative. But the only time I POAS during the cycle and the bfn sucked big time. I still hoped it wasnt true. So if I did that to mysf every days know I wouldn't cope. Am I the only one in here that feels that way?? Seems like you are all POAS addicts!!

[Miss.B]

1 dpt - faint second line (as you would expect from the trigger )
2 dpo - BFN

That's all I'm gonna say about POASing

[sarah4kurt]

Very BiG HugS Emma I am not able to POAS right now so u are brave xoxox
i will wait till fri as im trying to forget about it now
EPU Is the worst and it is so hard going thru it all with just a slap in the face BFN !!! all we can do is A Give Up Or B Keep chasing that baby dream!
xoxoxoxoxoxo

[sarah4kurt]

def. feel the same way as you my turn.... i try to forget the whole 2ww thing as much as i can! sometimes not so succesfully but i find if i dont draw mysef into it too much (as i used to put my heart and soul into it earlier) then it seems a litlle easier to cope with the bitter dissapointments. and if i do get a bfp it will make me fall off my chair i guess!! lol
this time it has been hard because ive had more hope than i have dared in a very long time due to fs finding my factor v leiden prob and keeping my blood thin to help that and getting 2 embies in i thought it would work for sure! i thought it was my time and i was having the best preggy and baby dreams leading up to this cycle which i had not had in a very very long time i thought it "meant" something lol. i had ultra sound deams and all nice dreams tho