Good thread.

Really happy with my clinic, but I am totally superfluous. To start with it was like I didn't exist. Even though the fertility issue is mine, all they do is talk to DW about this and that. Granted, she has to endure all the treatment just because my swimmers are funny shaped (which is totally unfair on her but that's where we currently stand with ART), but I still have an active role in this process other than being a sperm donor. For instance, I attend all the appointments, collect some of the drugs, and administer all of the needles.

But I don't let it bother me too much. I just make sure I ask heaps of questions so they actually realise I am there too. To be fair to them, I wouldn't be at all surprised if they get lots of males come through the appointments with glazed eyes and a serious lack of involvement, so it's probably a learned response. In my experience, men often don't take an interest in medical matters or have much knowledge in this field so they are already behind the 8-ball by the time they end up on the rollercoaster. Since I have got to know the staff better and vice versa, I am included more.

ETA: Oh, it sucked majorly that I had to walk back through the waiting room past the other patients and receptionist with my little paper bag on EPU day. Why not put the room somewhere more discreet so you don't have to look like a total tool after the job is done.