Hey, don't worry, I agreed with everything you said. You ladies have to endure the treatment, we don't (in most cases). Even when the issue is MF, it's just crap that the female has to go through all of that. I don't think I'll ever get past the guilt on that score. Emotionally, both sides of the equation are equal I think, but I'd never dream of comparing my very small physical role with the stuff DW has to endure.

The other day was actually the first time I'd collected DW's medication. Because it is prescription I assumed I couldn't but she rang ahead and the pharmacy was cool with it. I did the needles on the stim cycle and all the prep work for it (ie. DW just came up to the bedroom when I was ready and then went back to the tele). I go to just about every appointment, but she makes all the phone calls as I hate using the phone. So it's not like I do that much, I just do what I can, as obviously I can't take the drugs or put up with the scans and BTs. But I am 100% available emotionally, as she is for me.

PS. I just remembered that I was too chicken to take my samples in for analysis during the early AC consultations, so I'm no saint. I made her do it!

Slyder - I've re-read my post and I just wanted to add - I hope you didn't find my comments about my DH dismissive of the male partner's role in FT. The things I said are the things that DH has said to me - that he just wants to be my support, that I'm going through more than he is etc. That's not my opinion of what every male partner's attitude towards it should be.

Based on what you've said, now I'm wondering if perhaps it might be better if DH were more involved, but he is very emotionally supportive so I'm pretty content with that side of it. I do get him to give me all my injections, I think that's fair (plus, I don't think I could do it myself). But it's never even occurred to me that DH would go and pick up meds if I run out. Maybe I'll have a talk to him sometime and see if he's happy with the way we're arranging things, or if he'd like to change any of it.