belle333 - i'm glad that i'm not the only one that has a dh that does not want to be there for childbirth - but still wants to be a father and is an active participant in IVF. we have had an argument about it, and only after a glass or two of wine did the truth come out - he is terrified of what is going to happen to me. He has this fear that I might die giving birth, and that as we have made a rational choice about doing IVF (rather than just falling pg by accident), that it would be his fault as we could have made the decision not gone through the process, therefor not got pg and therefore I would not die in childbirth. I think that his concern is made worse by the fact that we are doing this because of MFI. For him the involvement of IVF has taken the whole reproduction thing into the world of a rational decision, made worse with every appointment, every opportunity to pull out etc, and that just for him confirms that if anything goes wrong, he could have prevented it. Not a logical thought process, but prob a male thing.

sarah h - like the ipod suggestion!

An update - we are currently in the TWW and I think that this is the time that my dh has felt the most out of it so far. He made the comment on the way home that it has been the hardest bit as there is nothing to 'do', nothing to concentrate on and there was nothing he could do that would change or alter the outcome. Nothing any clinic can do about that : (