Pessaries??

[briggsy's girl]

m2c - as i said earlier, i haven't used the pessaries, so i can't comment from personal experience, but i will say DH and i have a pretty healthy sex life and have yet to avoid it during the tww, so i can see us having a very similar set of questions post transfer - i guess we're pretty open and honest with everything, and i'm sure i will ask him if he wants to dtd while i'm using crinone, or whether he'd rather we were intimate in other ways for that time frame. i guess it's something that, as much as it might be a bit embarassing - is better to be discussed than to assume what the other will feel

if i were in your shoes, i'd ask DP whether he would like to attempt it - but not when things are getting hot and heavy - maybe while you're cooking dinner or something - just broach the subject - he obviously knows you're not feeling great about the pessaries (or he wouldn't have stood with you for half an hour trying to find the perfect pads!) - you're bound to blush - but at least you'll know what he is thinking - if he says yeah, lets give it a go, then great - if not, then you might have to find other ways to feel that degree of closeness during that TWW.

all the best hun - hope this is the only time you'll need to use the pessaries before you get your BFP


slyder might be able to give some more "practical" comments - i'm just going on the convo's i know are in the future for hubby and I...!

[mummy2chloe]

thanks heaps for that bg

i think i will just leave it upto him, he knows i am on the pessaries and he asked me tonight on the phone how things were going and i told him all the gross details hehehe, so if he still wants to dtd after hearing all about it then i suppose its something that might not worry him.

mind you if i were a man i dont think i would want to go there lol it feels gross from my side of the fence and i am a woman, i couldnt image what it would feel like if i were a man, but with any luck it wont bother him, and like you said if it does then there are always things i can do for him instead

i suppose will have to see what happens when the time comes, at least i dont have to worry about it for another 4 nights cos dp is away working

thanks again for your reply bg