thanks for that slyder, i think i will do what your dw done and put it in a little earlier so they have time to absorb. thanks again for answering such a personal question i really appreciate it.

bg with any luck hopefully the pessaries are better then the gel, but i must agree anything foreign down there doesnt feel real good, but i am sure once i get use to using the pessaries it probably wont feel sorry horrible, i mean today is day 2 of using them and it still feels yuk but i think today is a little better then yesterday cos i think i am starting to get use to it, give me 2 or 3 more days and i probably wont be as grossed out by it cos i will be used to it by then ( i hope) but hey if it gives me a baby then i say BRING ON the pessaries he he he

thanks again bg and slyder for your replies