Thanks so much FG...i feel like you are holding my hand in this, and it is comforting.

How it works here in terms of care...you can see a private Ob until 12 weeks (which is what I have done with the past pregnancies) and then they refer you to the clinic at the hospital, where normally you are seen by midwives. I think if a pregnancy is high risk, you get seen by a doctor at the clinic instead of the midwives, and maybe see them more often.
So I guess I am comfortable with the first trimester care, I was worried about after that, when I would prefer to keep seeing the same Ob. But on reflection, i am sure they are a good team at the hospital...and I am fortunate that my IVF nurse (and most regular point of contact, given that the FS is 3 hours away) is a midwife at the hospital. She is also a wonderful caring person, who has really gone above and beyond for me in the past...and I know she will take an active role in my care, at least in the first 12 weeks.

I too told my DH of your story.

You know the whole "why me, why something else on top of everything else?" feeling? i still have that quite strongly, even though I know I just have to pick myself up and get on with things! Can you relate to that too?