At the moment we (I) have decided not to disclose we are taking IVf path. As we don't know where it will take us till after 1st App. and even maybe 1st cycle.

Some what difficult with having son (adopted) and if we have to go to IVF apps. - but have a friend (DS friend's mum) who I think I can safely tell and avail her of child minding (or rather somewhere Ds can go before school).

2, Our own business -and need to be open regular hours - but our 'cleaner' (has daughter who had 2 babies IVF) - so maybe tell and use her for other jobs. Her DH just started doing some part time work too so may be the answer to our prayers [-o< working this out.

I am worried about the comments and my age (38 still just) - but really no one elses business. I think my family will be supportive considering our recent loss of Charlotte.

I would give anyone who said anything else a mouthful - 'you just don't know what you've lost till it's happened to you'
sorry for rambling...