oh Possums...babe, sorry you've had this. I have to fully admit I probably try and put +ve spins on things when talking about issues other people have, I guess it's a natural thing to do to try and make them feel better. But, I've also learned that the best thing someone can say to me is 'I'm sorry, I don't know what to say, but I'm here if you need anything'...so I'm trying to adopt that tact from now on.

take care and hugs