Just want to add that, altough I am not LTTTC or TTC at all for that matter, since DD was born (2 years ago!) I have had very little sex drive. I too started wondering what the point was, when I didn't enjoy it all that much - that little bit of pleasure at the end just wasn't worth it all when I was exhausted from a stressful job and looking after DD. I really didn't want hands on me or to have to look after someone else's needs again.

I thought that I was in the minority and DH's comments weren't helping.

I read a brilliant book that has changed my mindset on this just recently (and am trying to gradually move this into a physical change in myself). It's called "Love in the Time of Colic". I found it helped me realise this is extremely common- with a male and female voice it helped me understand what DH might be thinking and how he perceives it when I give him the brush off all the time. Give it a read and see if it helps at all.