Oh Emma, I am so sorry, I can't even begin to imagine your and DH's pain. This is just so unfair.

What does your FS say about your previous losses? I would hope that they would be justifiably concerned that there may be something going wrong that is not just chance or bad luck. What further tests have they recommended? Have you had all of the immune tests done?

Like you I would be concerned with the chance of another ectopic, and I guess IVF would overcome this obstacle. I know you feel hopefull of natural conception, and it is wonderful that you know this can happen. But wouldn't IVF and possibly further testing of your embies, like PGD (I don't know if your FS is recommending this) reduce the chances a potential loss down the track. IVF would increase the chance that, if one does take, it is the best possible embie.

These are just my thoughts. I don't really know if this helps any, and perhaps my view is skewed by the fact that I have never had a natural BFP in my life. So I don't have that hope of natural conception. I just feel that IVF is a more controlled process.

Again I am so sorry, and I pray that you will get your forever baby, even almost as much as I pray for my own. Big hugs. xx