I find the 'judgement' seems to always go the way of SAHM (only some!) judging working mums, it is v politically incorrect to say anything the other way... and that FRUSTRATES me.
The other thing is a lot of this comes from men, many of my DH friends seem to expect that their wives (and me) should stay home -
Back when my DD was young my DH put a lot of pressure on me to return to the paid workforce because he thought that being a SAHM was old fashioned and unnecessay these days... and that I was being slack "just" being at home.
He has done a 180"C turnaround these days though... NOW he understand why I am more exhausted at the end of each day than he is. Unfortunately though he reports back that many of his male colleagues pressure their wives to return to work before they are ready because they still don't value the work women do at home. So I think it goes both ways. But I agree.... everyone should do what's right for them.... every family situation is different... and men and women and SISTERS should all trust that we are all trying to do the right thing.