Hi ladies -

I was SO close to the beginning of my 2nd trimester when I found out on 21 May that I had a missed miscarriage at 11.5 weeks. Bub had died at 8 weeks 3 days. This was my 5th consecutive pregnancy loss if you include 2 chemicals. I am finally out of shock and starting to grieve.

I am 40 years old and do not have any children, and I am heartbroken that I will likely never have my own child. My husband wants to give up as he cannot bear to see me go through this again, and to a certain extent I agree. However, after progressing further than I ever have before, the thought of us having our own little family is hard to give up...

I am wondering if anyone has gone to the recurrent miscarriage clinic at Royal Women's in Melbourne. I would like to see if they can identify the problem. I know I have very low levels of lupus antibodies so I was on aspirin with this last pregnancy but it obviously did not help. We've yet to get the pathology report back on bub (I had to have a D&C so they were able to take some tissue for testing) so for all I know there may have been a genetic problem.

If they are able to find a treatable problem then maybe my husband and I will give it another shot. As it is now, trying again seems like we would just be setting ourselves up for failure and more pain.

If anyone can suggest any resources for me, or even can share a success story of a healthy baby after multiple losses, that would be great.

Thank you!