thanks guys its means heaps to me to know that you have all posted here to show how much you care. It really has helped and Jed and i have openly discussed the situation now. Looks like number 4 will be in the making end of next year (hopefully a scarlett..lol for Caddie).
Caddie - im sorry I didn't ring, I hate being a burdern at the best of times. I so wish we didn't live on opposite sides of Australia. One day mate..
xxmaz