didn't want to have to write in here...

**butterfly_warrior** · April 23rd, 2008, 03:50 PM

SaraJane, I'm so terribly sorry. This is something no woman should ever have to face, and yet all too many of us have to.

I know you just want to let nature take it's course, but it is very painful, and sometimes the body just doesn't manage to do it all on its own in the end. It might be worth having the blood tests just in case a D&C becomes necessary later on. I guess you could always just not go back and see the GP for the results if you are confident that things have passed completely.

It never ceases to amaze me just how often doctors aren't willing to believe that we know our own bodies.

Once again, SaraJane, I'm so sorry that this has happened to you. Don't feel guilty for not feeling the way you think you should - it's good to be able to look towards the future. Just as it's also important to let yourself have the hard days when they come, it's also important to allow yourself to experience the good days.

BW

**visitor1** · April 23rd, 2008, 03:54 PM

Oh babe...im so sorry for this.

**Inanna** · April 23rd, 2008, 03:56 PM

I am so sorry my love... Sending you love and healing hugs...

**Beach Mama** · April 23rd, 2008, 04:05 PM

Oh sweety

I am so sorry to hear of your loss.... Take care of yourself in the next few weeks hun.

**Celsie** · April 23rd, 2008, 04:08 PM

Oh my god SaraJane, I had to check twice when I saw this post and I'm so saddened to see your name in this thread. I'm so so sorry for your loss. May your heart heal with time.

Sarah. xoxox

**[M]umma[M]ia** · April 23rd, 2008, 04:11 PM

im so sorry hun.. i really dont know what to say..sorry

**Nicambhar** · April 23rd, 2008, 04:14 PM

Oh no SJ, I am absolutely gutted to read this.. I don't blame you for not wanting more tests.. Take care xx

***Nikki*** · April 23rd, 2008, 04:23 PM

Sara - im so sorry once again

Thinking of you

xox

**~Raven~** · April 23rd, 2008, 04:28 PM

SaraJane, again I am so sorry for your loss

**MrsB26** · April 23rd, 2008, 04:33 PM

SJ, i am devistated to read this. My prayers are with you and your Dh

let it out and cry, scream, yell and cry again. Sometimes life is so unfair xoxo

DoubleK · April 23rd, 2008, 06:38 PM

sorry i havent had time to read all the replies, but i just wanted to say im so sorry to hear whats happened. i have been through the same thing recently, and its just not fair.

i was so sick of going back and forward to doctors, hospitals, ultrasounds etc. i was meant to go back for one last blood test to make sure my levels hadnt suddenly gone up (i knew this wasnt the case, as my baby had already passed thrugh my body) but i never went back, the hospital actually called me, i didnt answer my phone.

i just wanted to give you a big

you will feel better soon, i hope your doing ok in the meantime.

**briggsy's girl** · April 23rd, 2008, 07:08 PM

SJ i'm so sorry to hear you're going through this - it's just not fair. There's no explanation, no possible way to understand what has happened, and my heart goes out to you

i read your opening post and just wanted to say that, as much as you don't want to, i would suggest that the BT, at least, is a good idea. even if you feel that you've had a complete loss naturally, it's always best to confirm that it is over. the reduction in HCG will confirm that for you, and give you closure. also keep in mind that you can't start trying again until your levels are back to zero, and sometimes it doesn't happen straight away so your doctor may want to monitor it

i completely understand the desire to go it alone and to deal with this most personal tragedy with just yourself and your partner - it's such a private thing to experience, and it really does seem invasive to have people poke and prod you - but really, i would suggest that your doctor wouldn't ask you to have the test if they didn't deem it necessary. and from a personal perspective, i found it easier to cope when i knew for sure that it was over, as opposed to assuming it - gave me closure. while you may not believe the doctor when they've said your conception dates might be out, a six week fetus may not have a visible heartbeat - and if you've not had a prior scan that showed the heartbeat, i'm guessing they want to confirm that this isn't the case for you...

my heart really goes out to you hun - no one should have to lose an angel baby EVER.

take care

BG