Oh Lulu, having been there myself I totally know how you feel. Numb and robbed don't do it justice. Not sure what your dr will say, but maybe will recommend a D&C, depending how long ago things went wrong. If you have a d&c, it really isn't that bad at all. I kind of wanted it to happen that way instead of naturally because I don't think I could have gone through the physical pain of seeing everything. But everyone is different.
My thoughts are with you at this time. If you want to chat, we are always here for you, or you can pm me.